The turn of events of Wesley’s death on January 21 have taken all of us from shock to disbelief and to grief. But in that grief, I share a message of hope, one that Wesley would want me to share.
My connection with Wesley goes back to the year he was born. Our church family joined his parents in praying for this new life born with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. Three surgeries and many answered prayers allowed Wesley a chance at life, and it was evident as Wesley grew up that he was a special person with an especially kind soul.
Wesley formed a bond with my daughter as her VBS leader, and later joined me in creating a monthly family and kids worship time called Family Experience (FX). Wesley’s acting skills and help of gathering other teenage actors allowed us to create a ministry to our church family that thrives to this day. And it was through FX that my relationship with Wesley turned from family friend to that of mentor/mentee. Through the years our friendship grew, and that friendship allowed me to walk with him on an incredible journey.
It was through this journey of discovery that Wesley became a Jesus follower. Whatever images or feelings come to you upon hearing that statement, I say this, Wesley followed Jesus in a way many people today don’t and wouldn’t even consider doing.
But in order to adequately tell this story, I have to go back to when Wesley was between the ages of 19-21. Wesley was in the middle of a faith crises. Wesley had grown up in church, was taught the Bible well, and was very active in his youth group. He had tons of knowledge through hearing the stories of Jesus. But, like so many young people today, leaving home for college and exploring and deconstructing oneself often leads to faith crises in our lives. Wesley’s journey was no different.
It was during his time at the University of Southern Mississippi and on one of our many phone conversations, Wesley would ask, “Who am I? What is my life about?” These are questions we all have probably asked ourselves at one point in time.
Now all of us who knew Wesley and his love for theatre and his craft knew this about him. He took his roles very seriously. In fact, I’ve never seen anyone study and do character analysis of roles to the degree that Wesley did. Every time he was cast in a show, he would spend hours poring over the script and the internet, researching the character, exploring how he could portray that character the best he could.
So in this faith crises Wesley was currently experiencing, I took “direction” from Wesley himself and challenged him to do a character analysis of himself.
Look in the mirror Wesley, and tell me what you see?
Ask yourself, Who am I? What am I here for? Does my life have purpose?
And he did just that.
Next, I challenged him to take a closer look at the life of Jesus and do a character analysis of his amazing life, and it was in that process a light came on. Wesley said, “my life doesn’t look like that.” I said, “then do something about it.”
Thus began an incredible time of change and transformation. Wesley began to imitate Jesus. He imitated him in the way Jesus treated others. He loved. If there is one message we take away from the life of Wesley, is the message of love.
Over time Wesley understood the character of Jesus and put into practice the words Jesus said when he told people to love God and love your neighbor as yourself. I say over time because this type of transformation is a journey.
Wesley would still get angry, but he turned away from anger and chose to love. He despised injustice, prejudice, bigotry, judgmentalism, and legalism, as he experienced the hurt that all produce.
Growing up his heart condition prevented him from doing lots of things young boys get to do. He couldn’t run, jump and play as most kids do. Sports wasn’t an option in that he couldn’t take a hit in the chest and survive.
He endured name calling and bullying, yet he acted not by retaliation. Wesley took the life he was given and used his God given talents to entertain through theater. It is fun to reminisce about his shows and all the different characters he portrayed.
My greatest joy was witnessing the greatest role Wesley Williamson ever played. This role wasn’t fake, it wasn’t an act. Wesley’s best part was his imitation of Jesus, and it was real life. Wesley imitated Jesus though love of his fellow human being. When you were with Wesley, he loved you and you knew it. That is rare in our world today. That is special, and it is needed in all of our own brokenness.
I used to read a particular verse in Scripture and think that it exhibited arrogance. In 1 Corinthians 11:1 the apostle Paul says, “Be imitators of me, as I am in Christ.” That statement bothered me because I didn’t fully understand Paul’s meaning.
As I grew in my own spiritual journey, I learned the true meaning. Wesley showed me that verse wasn’t arrogance at all. He did it. He imitated Jesus. And in Wesley imitating Jesus, we saw Jesus through Wesley.
We are witnesses to that. Look at all the Facebook posts after Wesley’s death. Post after post from all over the world, many said the same things and had the same themes.
Wesley made me feel…
He was kind…
He was my best friend…
He loved me…
I really have never witnessed anything like the outpouring from friends on social media. There is even a group called “10 more minutes with Wesley,” dedicated to collecting stories of Wesley’s impact on their lives in order to produce a play about him. I hope we all see and realize the magnitude of his life, this Jesus life and the impact he had on people.
Wesley’s funeral service was a testament to this impact. The livestream service numbers are staggering. The livestream computer statistics recorded viewers from all over the world.
In the United States alone, friends watched from twenty-eight States and ninety-seven Cities. Friends watched from London, York, Liverpool and Eccles, England. Berlin and Stuttgart Germany were represented along with Stockholm and Uppsala, Sweden. Warsaw, Poland, Prague, Czech Republic, and Toronto, Canada rounded out the viewers. Seven countries, twenty-eight States, ninety-seven Cities prove the impact of his amazing life.
What I really hope you see is that this wonderful life we all loved couldn’t have been and wouldn’t have been that person without his faith and following of Jesus.
Want to hear Wesley’s faith? Look at some of his Facebook posts in recent months:
You are worthy of authentic and unconditional love.
I pray my friends get through the battles they don’t talk about.
I pray to be the light to those who need it. You are loved and here for a reason.
He quoted from the Gospel of John. These are Jesus words –“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know you are mine…” (John 13:34-35)
This faith in Jesus was what gave Wesley strength to deal with his heart condition. One day this fall we were sitting on my porch having one of our chats. We were talking about Covid and the number of people getting sick. He said, “You know, If I get Covid, I’m going to die.” I asked him, “Does that scare you?” He said, “No. I know where I’m going if it happens.”
A friend of Wesley’s put it best. “None of us ever saw you as frail because you did not live life that way; instead you lived it to its absolute fullest every single day you were given.”
One of Wesley’s last roles was that of a juror in 12 Angry Jurors at Panola Playhouse in Sardis, Mississippi. For me the most memorable line was when he screamed the words at another juror, “LISTEN TO ME!”
I feel like today he would be screaming at us, Listen to me!
Listen to this he posted:
“If you really wanna be like Jesus: Be the one who stays, when everyone else walks away. Be the one who forgives, even when it is underserved. Be the one to show grace when everyone else is casting stones. Be the one to show love, even when they betray you. Cause that’s who Jesus is.
Jesus became Wesley’s director, and Wesley took his cues and direction and placed it into action. Love was not just a word to be thrown around. To Wesley love was a verb.
We will continue to grieve and mourn. My challenge to everyone reading is to keep these Wesley stories going. Keep Wesley’s love in action. Practice it. Can you imagine the world if we did?
Always remember…to Imitate Wesley is to imitate Jesus.
I say bravo my friend, to a life well done. May we love like you until we meet again!



















